Once again, I have cut my hair off. However, this time I have done it in a more stylish way. I decided that I wanted a pompadour, and this has turned out to be more flexible than last time when I just shaved all my hair off. And it looks much better.
A few things I have learned about short hair:
If you have curly hair like me, you do need to use product. Heck, maybe even people with straight hair need to use product, I don’t know. But I didn’t use any the first time I cut my hair off, and I did not like the results. This time around, I’ve been using a water soluble pomade no matter if I want to pin it down to look like a pixie cut or if I want to comb it up into a pompadour. And this has made all the difference.
Another thing that I have discovered is indispensable for short hair and/or growing out short hair is: bobby pins. You need to be able to pin your hair in place if it is too long to stay neat and too short to lay flat. It seems strange to me that short hair needs more care and styling than long hair, but this is the case.
When I tried to shave off my hair and grow it out without any product or pins, it looked really awkward and just stuck out at all angles in a giant sphere of hair. I guess it also helped that I got my hair cut professionally this time, whereas last time I did not, so that could have also been a big part of the problem.
I have had an overall positive experience with having a traditionally “male” haircut. Whenever my hair has been like this, I have experienced less street harassment, and in conversations people have seemed less dismissive to me. It almost felt like I had the upper hand, or that I was more feared or respected than when I had long hair styled in a feminine way.
I almost imagine that the way people treat me with a traditionally male hairstyle is the closest I will feel to what it is like to be a man in this society, and it actually feels a lot more pleasant than being a woman in this society. For this reason, I love having my hair styled like a man. But there were times when I really liked my long hair, because I liked how it made my face look uniquely feminine. It is a dilemma! I guess that is why I always go back and fourth with my hair length. It does grow back. It does always amuse me to see how much of a change a haircut can make in peoples’ preconceived notions about me.
Unfortunately, every time I cut my hair off, I always have at least one person who asks me, “do you have a lot of lesbians hitting on your now that you cut your hair off?”
to which I always respond, “Not that I have noticed. I am pretty dense when it comes to such things, and men always seem to resort to very aggressive means when it comes to hitting on me: grabbing me, kissing me, or otherwise touching me without my permission. No women have ever done this to me. Maybe lesbians have tried to flirt with me without my realizing, but realized that I was not interested and subsequently left me alone.”
And that is an honest response. Either lesbians are not hitting on me at all, or they are but they are much more civil and polite about it. I honestly would not be able to tell the difference.